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Anonymous

26 Feb 2020

I'm 19 years old, and have been playing hockey for most of my life. My parents want me to take it professionally, but I feel no passion for it. What should I do?

Some background: I have been playing hockey since 7, and my mother even quit her job so that she can accompany me to overseas trainings and competitions. I was offered a place at an overseas team after my poly. My parents have sacrificed and invested so much for my hockey, am I being ungrateful if I want to move away from it?

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    What are your thoughts?

    1. Try to rationalise what you're feeling right now, where your lack of passion stems from; is it burn out? or do you truly don't enjoy playing the sport?
    1. Also rationalise whether you want to take the sport professionally. Having passion for a sport doesn't necessarily mean that you want to develop it into a career for various reasons (e.g. you may think that it's not a healthy career because it's not easy to sustain it once you go beyond the peak).
    1. Commnicate to your parents about Points 1 and 2. And also understand why they want you to take it professionally (other than that they've invested large amount of money in you for it). Also take this opportunity to let them know what you would like to do next (or let them know that you want to find something you would like to commit to, if you haven't figure this out).

    Communication is important, if not the key thing here. Make your voice heard but also remember that they may not necessarily agree with you. But even if they don't agree with you (yet), don't think that you're being ungrateful to want to move away from it. This is your future that we are talking about here.

    Putting it from another perspective - if you continue with hockey out of "gratefulness" to your parents but because of the lack of passion and interest in the sport anymore, you fail to perform to their expectation (and in this case, the coach's and other investors' expectations). In the worst case scenario, you may not even be able to stay on the team or any professional team, killing your own career too. At that point of time, what are you go to do?

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      Moving away, what is you truly passion about?
      1. What you good at?
      2. How you going to achieve it?

      You should start reading more and find out what you truly passion and be happy doing it. Build up more confident and be knowledgeable about it before moving away from hockey.

      You should be able to explain to your parents on what you going to do, though there will be resistance from them at first. Bringing it to professional level prove their fruits on their vested time and money.

      Read more, understand more and get more option before moving on. Don't just switch because you think you no longer interested in one and you stop but have no where to go.

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        HC Tang

        HC Tang

        02 Jan 2019

        Level 13ยทFinancial Enthusiast, Budgeting at The Society

        Hey, you're still very young and at the best time of your life ๐Ÿ˜„โค๏ธ. I think you could try something...

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