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Anonymous

Posted on 23 Sep 2020

With a guy 5 years younger but he's very smart and is earning as much as me, I don't have a high salary. I feel insecure sometimes. Do you think this difference in earning power will be a problem?

Especially if we were to get married. Sometimes I feel insecure but we've only been together for about 6 months. What can I do to upgrade myself...

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This won't be a problem if both parties don't judge each other's value as partner by the amount they bring in. Money is important yes, but it should not be the ONLY thing the matters in a romantic relationship.

I think you should have a conversation with your boyfriend about this.

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Yang Teng

Yang Teng

23 Sep 2020

Agreed! You should definitely have a conversation with your partner about your insecurity in order to work things out.

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Deedee

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Posted on 23 Sep 2020

Hi anon!

I am opposite from you. My partner is 5 years older and earning slightly less :) We are getting married soon!

Anyway, thinking back, there was a period where I had a promotion and pay raise and our income gap widened. It actually spurred him to upgrade his skillsets and switched company, although that was 10 months of no income due to job searching but we survived thanks to his emergency funds! Thankfully the gap is now not as wide. In terms of finding out what skillsets to build up on, he went asking senior colleagues for advice.

Difference in earning power should not end up as a problem between partners in a relationship. Sometimes we just have to budget our income and spend wisely according to or less than what we are able to afford. Then, together, we should figure out what our future goals are and what action plans we are going to take to get there!

Inevitably, arguments will happen. But we will always remind each other (on less tense occasions) to enjoy the process of growing and journeying through life together :)

All the best to you!

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Why would there be a need to compete with your partner? In fact, it's great that he's earning more a...

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