Asked on 09 Oct 2018
I’m looking for a serious relationship. Planning to start having a family one day. I’m 23 and planning out my goals before confessing my interest for her. What are your advice?
Go for it become she gets taken! Work out the finances later
12 Oct 2018
Suggest you should go ahead and tell her that you like her.
If she reciprocate, great! :) Congratulations! :)
If she doesn't then, another one more suitable for you will come along.
It should be about getting to know each other, getting along, learning to accept each other for who she/he is before financial. You'll work out these details like who to pay for meals / movies and stuff and how to split the cost etc while you get along.
This is because everyone works these things our differently and woman these days prefer to be treated fairly, they are sensible and are willing to pay their own shares too. If we guys always think that we got to get everything ready then only can have a gf, get marry , it will never happens because by the time you're ready financially, it's too late. Relationship is a partnership. It takes at least 2 to form a partnership and I believe she expected to be treated fairly in all things too.
So in the future if you earn more, you can contribute more financially and she will contribute more in other areas that she's able :)
So now, go ahead and tell her, fall in love and enjoy the honeymoon and while in honeyoon, discuss about financial, about future, about getting marry once you've think you're ready and steady and start planning for it.
Aside from budgeting the dating, and wedding expenses which can be worked on progressively; I would say that you should have a stable income, financial stability is what most gals look out for. Even if you are not rich, but having a regular source of income and savings, will give the gal the security and assurance they needed.
Wedding and dating costs. Savings and investments goals to grow your capital. Advice is pray your girlfriend knows about financial stuff or at least willing to learn and change. If live paycheck to paycheck or worse is expense more than income then good luck.