I come from a relatively well to do family, and recently I've been getting to know this girl who is not well-to-do, we may end up together. How do I know she's not in this for the money?

Date more and observe, if during dating she does not spend a lot and does not ask you to pay, likely that is her lifestyle.

Hi Anon, honestly you should be able to tell if she's in for the money or not. Some questions you can ask yourself:

1) Does she offer to pay for meals?
2) How do you both resolve your arguments? Is she pacified when you buy her stuff? Or does she sincerely want to resolve the root cause of the problems with you?
3) Is she excited to settle down with you? Have you discussed wedding or future plans with her?
4) How do you settle your finances with her? Do you have a joint account with her?

Difficult question...

I don't have a crystall ball and I am not a mind reader....I try to give you a not-so-generic piece of advice...

And the advice is, "you don't know until its too late"

Of course, if you think like what you are thinking, you will find excuses or at least, you would notice or over-notice things that you would like to believe....

Too bad.

Life is good.

Cheers,

Pascal

Why think until so drama? Get to know her better first and see how it goes. There is still a long way to go from 'may end up' together, to simpe dating, to serious dating and to marriage. Throughout this period, you can slowly build up your trust with her and get to know her better. There will definitely be signs if she is in it for the money.