I come from a relatively well to do family, and recently I've been getting to know this girl who is not well-to-do, we may end up together. How do I know she's not in this for the money? - Seedly
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Asked on 24 Oct 2018

I come from a relatively well to do family, and recently I've been getting to know this girl who is not well-to-do, we may end up together. How do I know she's not in this for the money?

Her family stays in a 2-room flat while mine stays at 6th Avenue. Thats the gap we have now.

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Yl Chua

Yl Chua

Level 5. Genius

Answered on 14 Jan 2019

Frankly speaking, it's not easy to tell.

Plus too little info here in the question.

If you are well to do, dress like one, and splurge when outside (i.e. so obvious you are rich), and then it's the girl approaching you.. then you just have to monitor more and be careful.

It's really not about where the girl stays. So what if it's one room, two room flat or a wealthy girl?

Any of these girls have the propensity to be after your "wealth".

To truly know a person and the family... reveal little about yourself, be humble, and communicate more. Find out about lifestyle (maintenance), her dreams, ideals, her views on social matters, inheritance fights, how well she treats people of different levels, her type of friends etc. Learn to read body language than to just trust words. It looks like you are just at the starting stage... So spend more time and see with the heart.

The rich or wealthy sometimes keep thinking that people are out to eye their money. Some people even think that by "controlling money", they can manipulate people.

Money is just another object. You weren't born with it, neither can you leave with it. It's existence, is just to make your life a little better or worse.. depending on how attached one is to it. The worst characters fight over inheritance, tearing their own blood relatives apart, when the money weren't even hard earned by them and if any, granted by deceased to them, is just a gift.

There are blissful families with plenty of love at all levels of wealth. There are hateful and estranged families in the wealthy families too.

If super worried, do a pre nuptial agreement.

Nice women are actually more worried about marrying the wrong guy. And guarding fathers are worried that their daughters marry jerks, especially rich ones as guys with money tend to misbehave or guys who don't know how to treat their wives well.

There are probably ways to test water, but it means white lies (not encouraged). Or that the family insist on entering pre nuptial agreements for wives to be.

Women who love you for who you are, won't be very much offended by these worldly stuff.

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Jason Sing

Jason Sing

Level 8. Wizard

Answered on 24 Oct 2018

Trust is the key here. If you do not trust her or trust your own judgement, perhaps take time to really understand your partner. There is no need to rush into a marriage. Time will reveal a person's character.

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Junus Eu

Junus Eu

Level 9. God of Wisdom

Updated on 20 Apr 2019

Have you been in previous relationships where the girl was in it for just the money? By mentioning t...

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