I earn more than my husband. We have a son and want a second child. Is it reasonable for me to want my husband to be the one who stays home while I go out to work?

To you, your job is just a way to get an income but to him, maybe he ties his identity to having a job.

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Pay issues aside, I will never quit my job to become a house husband. My two kids will drive me crazy - more so than any work challenges, I feel 🤣

It's completely unfair for your husband to flat out refuse especially when he's earning less. Onus should be on him to decide how to rectify the situation if having kids are so important to him.

For the most part, men need the drive that comes from providing for their families. It affects their hormones and health; it's wired into their DNA.

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It's not always just about the money.

I think a consensus has to be made betwen husband n wife. There could be other solutions/ arrangements - e.g. enrol kid to childcare centre, hiring a helper, finding part time work or home based work etc. Having 1 parent to 'stay home' may not be the only solution for having a 2nd child 😉