I earn more than my husband. We have a son and want a second child. Is it reasonable for me to want my husband to be the one who stays home while I go out to work?

To you, your job is just a way to get an income but to him, maybe he ties his identity to having a job.

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Pay issues aside, I will never quit my job to become a house husband. My two kids will drive me crazy - more so than any work challenges, I feel 🤣

For the most part, men need the drive that comes from providing for their families. It affects their hormones and health; it's wired into their DNA.

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It's not always just about the money.

I think a consensus has to be made betwen husband n wife. There could be other solutions/ arrangements - e.g. enrol kid to childcare centre, hiring a helper, finding part time work or home based work etc. Having 1 parent to 'stay home' may not be the only solution for having a 2nd child 😉

You should just hire a helper or maid for the kids. You need to communicate why is there a need that your husband needs to be home IF the reason is that you are earning more...