facebookI come from a relatively well to do family, and recently I've been getting to know this girl who is not well-to-do, we may end up together. How do I know she's not in this for the money? - Seedly

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Anonymous

08 Jun 2021

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I come from a relatively well to do family, and recently I've been getting to know this girl who is not well-to-do, we may end up together. How do I know she's not in this for the money?

Her family stays in a 2-room flat while mine stays at 6th Avenue. Thats the gap we have now.

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Date more and observe, if during dating she does not spend a lot and does not ask you to pay, likely that is her lifestyle.

Andy Sim

06 Mar 2020

HR Professional at a Financial Institution

Hi Anon, honestly you should be able to tell if she's in for the money or not. Some questions you can ask yourself:

1) Does she offer to pay for meals?
2) How do you both resolve your arguments? Is she pacified when you buy her stuff? Or does she sincerely want to resolve the root cause of the problems with you?
3) Is she excited to settle down with you? Have you discussed wedding or future plans with her?
4) How do you settle your finances with her? Do you have a joint account with her?

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Pascal S

06 Mar 2020

MBA Graduate at Singapore Management University

Difficult question...

I don't have a crystall ball and I am not a mind reader....I try to give you a not-so-generic piece of advice...

And the advice is, "you don't know until its too late"

Of course, if you think like what you are thinking, you will find excuses or at least, you would notice or over-notice things that you would like to believe....

Too bad.

Life is good.

Cheers,

Pascal

Rais M

28 Feb 2020

Accountant at SME

Why think until so drama? Get to know her better first and see how it goes. There is still a long way to go from 'may end up' together, to simpe dating, to serious dating and to marriage. Throughout this period, you can slowly build up your trust with her and get to know her better. There will definitely be signs if she is in it for the money.

Sharon

28 Feb 2020

Life Alchemist at School of Hard Knocks

Bring her to your house and have dinner together with your family around. You will see her behaviour...

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