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27 Feb 2020

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I am a full time working mum with 2 young boys ages 5 and below. The first one requires lots of attention as he is very clingy, has low self-esteem and is difficult to handle. Should i quit my job to take care of them?

The alternative carers of my boys are strong proponents of corporal punishment but I don’t think it helps. In my line, I doubt I will be able to get back into my industry if I were to leave it for 3 years. I have adequate savings for about 3-5 years of expenses. My husband can earn just enough to cover current expenses plus a little savings if we do not travel.

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What are your thoughts?

This is difficult to answer on a board and there are so many individual facts

my private thinking is that family is more important than jobs, easy said however in the real world

maybe there is no black or white solution for you, maybe to spend a bit more time with them woul help?

maybe also you are too pessimistic thinking to not have the opportunity later to return, maybe you'd like to discuss with your supervisor?

A few questions / comments to help you make your decision:

  1. work. How are your current hours like? Any possibility of going part time? What are future prospects like in your company and in your industry. This will help you decide if you should (I) look for a new company or stay and ask for better working hours (II) stop work and go into a different industry

  2. Caregivers. Are you able to change the caregivers to childcare, helpers or another set of relatives who may be more aligned with your discipline style? Are you able to change the minds of these existing caregivers through research, education? Can you find propose activities for the kids to do while being minded so as to cut down on bad behaviour when being looked after? What is your ideal parenting situation? Are you able to see yourself as a SAhM?

  3. Savings / investments. You have 3-5 years of savings. Where are you right now in terms of ability to invest? Are you able to stretch to more than 3-5 years?

  4. husband’s career. What is his career like? Able to increase pay or is already stagnant? Is his temperament suited to be sole breadwinner?

  5. what if? What if you do stay at home? Are you able to cope with cooking, cleaning and looking after the kids? What are your expectations of your husnand when he comes home from work? does he need to help you After he comes home? How much discretionary expenses can you cut away if you do decide to stay at home.

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  • childcare, for more social interaction and discipline

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