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Anonymous

15 Oct 2020

Property

Would you guys consider staying in the same block or same level as your mother in law, if she’s very demanding? What are some tips to deal with in laws?

I’m thinking of applying for BTO with my fiancé but his mom wants to apply with us for the MGPS scheme.

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Jiayee

15 Oct 2020

Salaryman at some company

There's a difference between demanding and clingy. If she is simply demanding, either let her apply for the scheme or have your fiance manage her expectations.

You need to communicate your discomfort with your fiance and he needs to take action (e.g. convincing his mother, setting up a plan which everyone can agree to, etc).

If she is clingy and if you are in the same block, she's gonna come over. Alert your fiance about this possibility and the lack of privacy. Do not delay or hide your discomfort as this is a long-term arrangement.

As for myself, when I am uncomfortable, I will communicate this discomfort with my husband privately. I never confront my in-laws directly. If I am still uncomfortable with anything despite my husband's knowledge, then I will hold him responsible and escalate the issue e.g. not talk about anything else unless a satisfying conclusion is reached.

All the best!

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