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Anonymous

07 Jun 2019

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What do you think about stay home moms?

I'm currently an Acc undergraduate. I'm just a simple woman with a simple dream that likes simple job (but means I'll be overqualified).
I want 2 kids with a loving hubby, grow old together and live happily ever after.
What should I do?

  • Finish my university in 2 years, come out be an admin? Live with a 2k wage?
  • Be a stay home mom with a part-time job? What part-time job should I get? Please don't tell me KFC or Mac.

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HC Tang

07 Jun 2019

Financial Enthusiast, Budgeting at The Society

You have an a/c degree, still can work for commercial line. Just don't go for big 4. I'm sure you know that big 4 is training ground but very brutal graveyard working hours. After that good exposure @ big 4, most will go to commercial line and be A/C Asst, Accountant, Finance manager and some day even CFO.

I really admire your dreams and I'm sure many guys would love to have you as their wife with 2 kids and a happy family :) You'll be a very happy family! :)

However, in a high cost of living place like SG, we're forced to face with reality of the high cost of living and manage it somehow.

These days ,even admin job is quite demanding. The company i work with also don't let receptionist cum admin go home in time, everyday have to work at least 1 hour OT or so. Thus even a simple Admin title may not entitle to simple work life.

It's only those company with the right work life balance and pro family culture will allow people to go home sharp in time. Government ministry staff also more or less gets to go home in time.

My thought is that, Maybe you could, finish Uni in 2 years time, find an A/C Assist job in government ministry, or when you see the job advertisement, check out their company in Linkedin and also glassdoor to see the staff review. Check if ex staff said if is a work life balance and friendly place, no OT etc. By all means these could be your kinds of company that has pro family and work life balance system , rather than some company claims to have flexi work timing but just choose your fix time to come earlier and go home earlier and come later and go home later, those were not true work life balance or flexi work timing.

Suggestion path could be: In goverment sector or Company with true work life balance / pro family scheme

Pathway: Uni graduate A/C Assist or Audit - Accountant / Sr. Auditor

In both, like my ex classmate who chose to be auditor, their life is simpler and less OT, with adequate income too :)

Do find out more from your lecturer or faculty side on the possible career pathway, and the assistant of job placement, industry training , intership as much and as early as possible so that you can make early plans for it!

Check out this guide by Seedly for the local uni, field of focus and staring salary to have an idea:

https://blog.seedly.sg/graduate-starting-salary...

After married and with 2 kids, as you will need $, so unless your husband make a lot of $, it is not advisable to just find admin job and remain 2k+ salary (remember even Admin job these days were very demanding and heavy load!). Neither be a stay home mum a good options too earlier.

Once you meet your sweet hubby and get married, settle down, if husband income is able to pay for all the fees requires to raise the 2 kids (I'm not saying go for expensive lifestyle or full of tuition, but some tuition is necesssary due to our demanding educational system), then you can consider be a full time stay home mum so the family can depends on one income only. However, do consider of the risk of one single income as these days there's no job security, thus you guys will need to save a lot of emergency funds and plan for backup in case of husbang job losses if it happens.

Finally, I wanted to say. It's a good dreams and I love your plan. WIth a little bit of planning and risk management, you can still achieve your dreams above, coupled with much safer plans for longer terms. After all , a stable family also requires stable income and $ sometimes put on heavy strain on relationship. Don't let $ be the factors that affect your marriage and relationship, manage it well , plan and manage it earlier, dreams will still comes true! :)

Have a great life ! :)

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If only life is that simple... Keep your options open, graduate first, then follow your friends to get a job, talk to real world ppl (student life is still pretty much bubble life), talk to other office ladies with simple job, 2 kids, loving hubby, then set your compass.

I don't mean to scare you but there are ladies doing simple jobs (2k-3k) unhappy with their jobs, because they wished they can earn more so that they can contribute more to the family.

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Run a home business as a stay home mum. There are success stories who became millionaires!

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Kenichi Xi

07 Jun 2019

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The degree you hold could fetch u a good income even if you are not in the BIG FOUR.

Is a pity tt you wanna go for simple job but then again is ur destiny and no one can change that.

Let me share the future w u.

  1. if you are a tai tai after marriage, you possible will live happily ever after. bcos going back to the workforce will not be needed ever in ur life. BUT
  2. if ur simple dream comes with a simple husband who is the bread winner, he too have parents to take care of.

At the same time, u have parents to take care of.

When you lack experience and network as u age, you cant get an accountant job and low pay, no prospect admin job and contract based at the most aka, u will be jobless after contract if they nv renew u.

you might even have fear of going back to the work force bcos ur Degree should have get u a good pay but u end up doing admin job.

you are already picky with ur part time job so the fear i mentioned above might materialise.

All in all, is ok to live a simple life but without a plan tt simple choice might destroy ur life.

If you have delay gratification for ur simple life plan, things might just be different.

Hope my last sentence at least give u some good direction.

Hope my reply helps.

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Thank you.

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