Asked by Anonymous
Asked on 24 Dec 2018
I've already tried using the "how much you can save if you were not smoking" method, but it didn't work. Or should I just accept it as it is?
Most of my bro who smoke smokes 1 pack a day at least. Their GF also ask them to quit or reduce but they ain't listening. Those who don't quit had a character of avoiding or running away from serious topic or things they don't like to deal with. So it's not a logic or sense that we could talk them into or out of it.
I suppose it really depends on you if you wanna stay with him, know that this character traits stays until he is more mature or faces something dire then only willing to change. Otherwise he could be like this forever since nothing really make him determine enough to wanna quit smoking.
if you do wanna stay with him , then find one day very seriously discuss future with him.
Know that it's very hard to quit smoke for heavy smoker. Share that you will be there together with him and help him quit step by step every step of the way.
Remember , being angry or scolding or nagging only chase a guy to escape from reality and lie. Only true love, acceptance and support allow him to felt safe to reveal his trueself to you and willing to appreciate, go thru life's thunderstorms, thick and thins and stay together.
All the best to you guys 😊
Take this time to really consider if your boyfriend is someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with.
You should not even think of accepting his habit. If he places you in priority and definitely knows that smoking is harmful to the people around him especially you deemed as his loved one, he will try to kick his habit. This kind of prove that he doesn't love you enough. I'm sorry for the direct way of saying this matter but I have gone through one narcissistic relationship and current real love relationship to tell you this.
It is good that you are mature enough to think about the financial aspects of the relationship, but remember, there is no perfect man/woman.
find out why he smokes. Is it because of work, stress, habit, etc etc. Also, see if he can find a substitute.
Remember, men and women are programmed differently.
Throw his PS4 out the window or something similar.
Then say. That's on you for smoking and throwing away money on top of life and health and future baby.
Do it tactfully.
Just let him know that you don't like him to smoke. Or you don't like smokers. And leave it as that.
Smokers will only stop smoke when they decide to stop. No amount of advices given will help them. In the end, it will sound like nagging.
Also, decide at this point if you are able to tolerate the smoking for the rest of your life.
I feel the way to approach this situation is not from the money/cost savings that one may derive from cessation of smoking. A better angle would be to approach in terms of potential health risks with smoking. Smoking puts not just himself at a risk of lung cancer but also his loved ones at risk (from second hand smoking). Suggest to seek professional help with smoking cessation.
Ask him to invest in cigarette stocks instead, Altria (MO) & Phillips Morris (PM)
Nothing much you could do. Does you guys intend to get married soon? If yes, may be a slight chance. Prepare for healthy body for healthy baby. Saving money is next good reason. 😉💵