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Anonymous

18 Apr 2019

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Is having a long-distanced relationship always so financially straining? My boyfriend is from Germany, and we can only meet 2-3 times a year. Is it worth keeping the relationship?

But the expense to meet up is just so high. Plus when we send gifts for each other's birthdays. We talk online, but because of the time-difference, we don't have a lot of common time. We aren't even sure about the future of the relationship, and sometimes I feel like I'm spending too much on this.

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Jeff Yeo

24 Dec 2018

amateur Social contributor at School of social sharing

Investments of the heart is only Worth it when you see the value.

based On my views it would be no bacause physical I feel that it is important to be in person.

The cost of of flying to meet each other is also huge.

ultimately you have to ask yourself if you see the value in continuing

If you are starting to feel this way, chances are, your love for your partner is slowly being diluted. Do you see an end point in this relationship? Are you going to move over, or is he going to move here?

Bang Hong

17 Dec 2018

Sustainable Spender Specialist at Spender Bang

Well, it really depends and on a serious note nobody can give you an answer for it.

The "worthiness" is assessed by nobody except yourself. If you see a future together, do plan something.

Few even travel to europe once a year, not to mention twice or more. Will eventually, any of u will permanently move to each other's side? I think this is a very important question to answer first.

Being apart is not easy. Being physically close is important too, it is just human nature(and other animals as well) that we yearn physical touch. When we are experiencing emotional setback (or even happy), we really want to have your love one physically beside u to share your pain and joy. Probably u are someone like that?

As u mentioned, time difference is also a big problem. It is just weird for either side to greet each other morning or goodnight. These simple yet sweet actions probably lost its effect.

The fact that u are here to, asking this question publicly, already mean these strain are manifesting into problems. You are already feeling insecure with him. The only way now is to speak openly with your bf, tell him how u feel and ask him tell u how he feels. You will need to discuss with him what he intends to do about the relationship, as both of u can't be remaining status quo forever right?

How long has the LDR been? Have you talked about future..sure as potential moving in together or fin...

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