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Anonymous

31 May 2020

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I'm 32, just got married. and I'm in a company where I am doing really well. My husband wants to have kids soon, but I'm afraid it will affect my chances of promotion in the future. What do I do?

I work in an MNC, and have always had very good performance reviews. I've been promoted twice, and my CEO tells me that I have a lot of potential in the company. However, I have to travel a lot, and having kids will definitely stop me from doing that. I want to start a family too, but maybe this is not the time? We are both ins our 30s, and also feel that we don't want to only have kids when we are much older. What should I do??

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Decide what is important for you in the next 5, 10, 20 years. What does it look like? And work backwards

I guess you are 34 this year, and wondering what sort of decision did you make back then? Hopefully you are promoted again :)

Hi, you and your husband should have a heart-to-heart talk on your priority in life?

I know someone focus on career but neglated his/her own health and family. My friend unfortunately passed away during his prime, and some retired alone despite very successful in their career.

Personally, I think the priority should be own health, family then career. Without a health body and mind, you can't take care of family and career? Without a stable and loving family, what is the point of having a successful career that you can't share the fruit?

At the end of day, I think happiness is more important than material wealth. ​​​

My cousin got married when he was 29 y/o. He and his wife decided to have kids at a later age as both were working in a company with really good prospects. now with a succesful career he & his wife is 36 y/o and still "trying". Nature waits for no one... sometimes when you want to have a kid after a successful career, you may not be that successful in "that" area. of coz, with medical advances this days you could try for a child through IVF which means all the $$ that ur hubby & u have saved up will be put to use through the process. there is no 100% guranteed with IVF & neither with natural methods. However, ask yourself if you really want children coz of "expectations" or because you really want 1 to complete your family. Always understand that a company (no matter how big) is about dollars & cents, once your value is gone so will you in the company.

Career can wait first....

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