How would you handle it if your son dropped his brand new Iphone (that you bought for him) and the screen cracked? Even if it was a genuine accident? - Seedly

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Asked on 04 Jan 2019

How would you handle it if your son dropped his brand new Iphone (that you bought for him) and the screen cracked? Even if it was a genuine accident?

My friend's son did it accidentally, and my friend got completely mad about it. I thought it was a little unfair because her son is usually very careful, and he worked really hard to get good enough grades to get this reward. (The son is in secondary school)

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Leong Wen Fong
Leong Wen Fong, Community Lead at Seedly

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Updated on 07 Jun 2019

I think this is a chance to show him the difference between things that he earned and things that you are willing to give.

Since he had to achieve good grades in order to get this reward, I would classify this under something that he "earned". From the sound of it, he worked hard to get it, so this is his reward. If we follow your description about him usually being careful about his things, then I do think that this is one of the chance to show him kindness.

The problem with Singaporeans is that they rather "teach a lesson" about it and say that everyone has to earn everything. I attribute it to the meritocral government we grow up in. People become cynical, and only equate effort to whether someone deserves something.

My take is that since he has already earned it, and felt the pain of the loss, why not take this chance to shwo him kindness instead? Instead of showing him that he has to earn everything, why not show him that mistakes are a part of life, but it doesn't mean that there can't also be love?

I know taht this is a highly debatable response, but from the minimal description that you posted, he seems like a good kid, and probably feels bad enough taht he broke the new gift. More than showing him that everything must be earned (which he did for the iphone) why not teach him about being compassionate? I'm pretty sure that he will be grateful enough to take extra care about it.

For those who say that "he deserved it" or "it's your fault for giving him an iphone". I think it's a very insensible thing to say. Have you not made a mistake at work before? Does it mean you should not be hired? If you made a friend angry, does it mean that you should not have friends?

There's a time to teach about responsibility, there's a time to teach about character.

Here's just my 2 cents about it

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HC Tang
HC Tang

04 Jan 2019

Love it bro. Teach gratefulness and mercy from young! πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘ We all need to learn be a little bit more graceful in our society. πŸ‘πŸ˜ƒπŸ‘

Can go check with Apple since it's new and they might honour the 1 year warranty (thought it doesn't cover the glass). If they don't provide free repair, then you can try to find reputable repair shops to repair. After this, get warranty from insurers as Telco these days does that (they partner with 3rd party) or find few external insurers do have such packages.

In general , do put on a good case and tempered glass, even if drop only need to replace tempered glass at $10 to $15 as a good case and good tempered glass would protect it well.

Like Wen Fong shared, maybe can use this chance to teach mercy and gracefullness as we all need a little more grace. πŸ˜„

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Question Poster

04 Jan 2019

Haha, it was just fresh out of the box. Very unfortunate
HC Tang
HC Tang

04 Jan 2019

very sorry to hear about it .. but no choice.. u can go ask Apple and see if they are willing to fix for free out of good will but chances not high. Most importantly now is to get a case and tempered glass to fix on it the same hour when repair is done.

Being angry about it is human nature, but that is a useless moment that would just make the kid feel worst.

instead view this as a chance to teach the kid about cost and effect.

Make him learn about responsibility aka making him pay for the repairs Since it’s a mistake he made.

This will be carried on to his life in later stages.

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Leong Wen Fong
Leong Wen Fong

04 Jan 2019

Agree totally. A difference between a moment of anger, and a lesson about mistakes in life
Debbie Tan
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Answered on 04 Jan 2019

Too bad so sad. The child is already in secondary school, should be responsible for his belongings. Your friend can get her son to take charge in getting the cracked screen repaired by checking how much it costs to repair it, where to repair it, how long to save up for the repair, and what steps to take to prevent another incident like this. Hopefully he learns to be more responsible and the value of his own time and his pocket money. Meanwhile, he should continue using the phone.

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Since it doesnt happen often, get it fix for him for the first time but let him know he will have to deal with cracked screen or fix himself by working part time or go get a tempered glass and a case that protect the phone. I dropped alot so i have tempered glass and case all the time for my phone not iphone though.

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Leong Wen Fong
Leong Wen Fong

04 Jan 2019

i think this is a fair thing to do tbh. I feel some responses are too cynical, since OP said the boy worked hard for it and also is usually very careful
Bryant Tan
Bryant Tan, Director at Starbuyproperty.co

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Answered on 09 Jan 2019

Love him.

You bought the iphone because you love him.

Now accident happened,

calm down

peacefully explain to him to be careful next time.

;)

love

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if you are rich enough to get an iphone for your son....get another one!

or tell him, spoil already no new phone for him! cane him for spoiling an expensive item!

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John Ong Zhenxi
John Ong Zhenxi

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Answered on 04 Jan 2019

I wouldn't buy a luxury phone for my children. I will ask him to either

  1. use it with cracked screen.

  2. pay it with his bank savings.

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