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Asked on 15 Jan 2020

How much money to give at friends wedding?

What is a good, socially acceptable amount of money to give friends at a wedding?

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Junus Eu
Junus Eu
Level 9. God of Wisdom
Answered on 13 May 2019

One of my pet peeves is the expectation that someone who goes to a wedding (especially reluctantly) is expected to cover the price of the wedding costs per head. And it's even more annoying if the couple is like this:

I would just give whatever amount you are comfortable with, especially if you feel that you are going to the wedding just to 'fill the table'.

I have had acquaintances reach out to me many years after not keeping in touch, and it is clear that they are looking to fill the table with classmates. Needless to say, I usually do not respond to such requests.

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Andy Sim
Andy Sim
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 24 Feb 2020

https://singaporebrides.com/wedding-banquet-price-list/

A good place to start to have a gauge what is the market rate. I'll usually give market rates for decent only friends, but for good friends, iI'll probably give abit more. E.g. market rate is 168, I'll maybe give 188, in a way to show my appreciation to them for being my good friend. You can always ask friends who are attending the wedding with you to have a feel how much are they giving before deciding yours!

Oh and if you feel you are not close to the person but somehow have to attend the wedding (cos of whatever reason), you can put in a lesser amount and don't write your name. Quite bas**** but...that's life HAHA

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It really depends on the level of friendship. As a rule of thumb, I would give based on the market rate so that the couple could at least cover some of their costs. Of course, I would give higher than market rate for very good friends.

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Geraldo L.
Geraldo L.
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 24 Feb 2020

Usually I will Google the wedding ang pow rates. There are plenty of benchmark prices available and even updated according to the year. If they are your close friends, add $50 or more to the amount stated.

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MT2020
MT2020
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 24 Feb 2020

I would say it really depends on your circle of friends. One way to gauge would to be to find out how much 1 table cost and divide it by how many pax in the table to find out the average cost of 1 pax.

Very close friends- Would give way more than an average cost of 1 pax

colleagues/ friends- Give based on cost of 1 pax per table

The rest- Give lesser than cost of 1 pax.

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Rais M
Rais M
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 24 Feb 2020

Depends on friendship level.

1) BFF - Would give as much as I can afford to support to defray the wedding expenses. As I know this BFF would do the same for me.

2) Normal Friend / Colleague - Market rate based on hotel wedding banquet pricing

3) Not so close - Try to give market rate la.

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Davin
Davin
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 24 Feb 2020

For good fren, $200 for 4 star and above hotel. I will try to help them to minimumly cover the cost as I hv went thru the path, I know the stress of having all the big ticket items came at the same time

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Dawn Fiona
Dawn Fiona
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 15 Feb 2020

How much do you want to bless your friend with? Do you simply want to give a fixed amount you're comfortable with, or a minimal sum to at least cover the cost of your seat, or extra to bless your friend for his/her new journey into wedded life?

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Jonathan Chia Guangrong
Jonathan Chia Guangrong, Fund Manager at JCG Fund
Level 8. Wizard
Answered on 16 Jan 2020

Depends on how close you are to your friend. As mentioned by others here, you should at least cover the cost of your seat. Can research current estimated table prices here: https://singaporebrides.com/wedding-banquet-price-list/

Oh and if you are close to your friend, consider adding more.

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Jacqueline Yan
Jacqueline Yan, Content Strategist at Seedly
Level 5. Genius
Answered on 16 Jan 2020

Hi Anon!

Like Mark mentioned, we'll usually try to cover the cost of our seat. Imagine if everyone gave lesser than the table cost, they'll start off their marriage with a huge bill! If you need a quick reference since it differs by hotels, you can check out Seedly's guide on wedding ang bao rates!

Usually, I've got extra consideration too, if they're a really really close friend, I'll try to give a bit more than the usual rate. Say the usual rate is $113, I'll probably round it up to $138 or something?

Enjoy the food! :D

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Mark Chan
Mark Chan, Business Manager at Amobee
Level 5. Genius
Answered on 16 Jan 2020

It is entirely up to you.

There is a general rule of thumb to cover the cost of your own seat at the wedding, and there are many sites that provide a very comprehensive table on how much you should give: based on the venue, day of week (weekends cost more than weekdays), and time of day (dinners cost more than lunch)

Having said that, it is just a rule of thumb. You are welcome to give more.

Try to accept invitations only from those you feel close to. A good question to ask yourself so as to better guide your decision is: ‘Will I invite this person to my wedding, if I ever have one?’

Otherwise, you can also politely decline the invite from the onset of the invitation :)

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Winshern Ho
Winshern Ho
Level 3. Wonderkid
Answered on 15 May 2019

If you are just there to fill the table, just give a nominal amount.

some people are just inviting to be polite, kindly reject it.

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