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Anonymous

09 Oct 2020

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Property

What is the best option for a 30yr old who cannot tolerate living with his dad anymore and needs his own space.?

Hello! I co-own a 4 rm resale HDB with my dad due to special circumstances - my parents divorced and they had to sell their matrimonial home. My mum got her own place and urged me to buy a HDB with my dad to 'tie' him down. My dad has a history of drug abuse and was in remand during the sale - completed his sentence about 2 months after the sale. Fast forward 5 years later, he got caught again, 1-3 year sentence.

Since MOP is due to next month, would like some advice.. I can delay up to a year.

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Rachelle Lye

09 Oct 2020

Digital Marketing at Fintech

Hi anon,

I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time, but I guess there really is no ‘best’ option. I’m assuming that you no longer want to live with your dad, so that wouldn’t be an option anymore.

Putting aside all emotions that might be involved in this, I think the biggest question you need to ask yourself is - What are your future plans for yourself?

Do you plan to settle down soon, or do you plan to have kids in the future?

If you want to keep the 4 RM resale for your future, here are some of things to consider:

Seeing that you currently co-own the 4 RM resale, to be honest, I would think that if you’re looking to have kids in the future and if you’re on a tight budget, to continue living in the 4 RM resale isn’t a bad option since it would provide sufficient space for kids to run around. That is also assuming the resale still has a good amount of years left for your future, should you plan to spend it there.

But of course, if your dad is no longer living with you, then where will he stay? Are you able to afford or willing to find another place for him to live in (e.g. rent a small HDB flat or room just for him)?

Another thing would be, would he be okay with moving out as well, since technically he still co-owns the flat?

That being said, are you then comfortable with the idea of your dad co-owning the house? Or would you want a transfer of flat ownership (without monetary consideration), or resale of part-share (at a mutually agreed price)?

If you definitely want to sell the 4 RM resale, here are some of things to consider:

Will the amount that you sell your 4 RM resale for be sufficient for you to look for a new place for you to live in, AND another place for your dad to live in?

If not, then you might need to tap on your own savings
 And it could amount to quite a lot depending on whether you are going to apply for a BTO or another Resale or if you are planning to downsize and get a smaller flat.

Or is your mum in the equation, would it be possible for you to live with her as a temporary solution, or would you want to live with her in the future?

I see that you also tagged EC Condominium, is that one of your options? If so, do you qualify for all the requirements (especially the ‘family nucleus’ requirement) to purchase an EC? Are you applying under the public scheme or fiance and fiancee scheme?

Which brings us back to the question of, what are your future plans for yourself?

That being said, I’m no expert in terms of property ownership or sales, these are just my two cents’ worth.

And pardon my intrusiveness, but based on the way you asked your question, it sounds like you still care for your father, so if you factor in familial ties and emotions into your decision, then that’s a whole different ball game altogether, which is definitely not easy
 😕 I wish you all the best in making your decision.​​​

If u sell and might leave him in the lurch, then you are probably quite limited on choice unless you plan to cut him off.

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