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03 May 2023

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Recently married, should we have a child? recently heard of this term DINK (DUAL INCOME NO KIDS). I don't mind having 1 kid max 2 but its costly. In our early 30s..

I don't know if it's a good idea

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Chin Guo Qiang

22 May 2023

Assistant Vice President, IT EUC at OCBC

I'm in my early 30s as well, but not DINK and SINK instead (word pun unintended, Single Income No Kids (definitely unless I adopt 1).

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This topic is rather a heavy one, think of having a kid is akin to having a premium insurance plan (with variable expenses over the next 21 to 30 years), it can be a hefty sum but that depends on what kind of lifestyle you want your kid(s) to grow up with.

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Also, it can be a good chance to look back at your childhood to determine a good fit for the future kid(s), if finances is a concern.

If you are asking for my opinion, I would say, have a conversation with your spouse, make sure both of you are agreeable to this, there's too many factor to be thinking thru.

I think this should be a personal decision between you and your spouse. No right or wrong as we don't know your context.

I don't think this is an appropriate question to ask strangers if you actually want a concrete answer, because it's u who has to make the decision... since bearing a child costs your money, your time, your responsibilities, something no any other person can replace. But personally I believe that if u don't know if something is a good idea, means it's most likely not a good idea, if not u would be able to say yes to it certainly.

Hahaa the social contract... more likely to see child or children as part of legacy than a cost. The...

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