facebookMy son is 30, and still staying with us. Recently he has been spending a lot more unnecessary money (eg when he doesn't like our cooking, he will order food). Should I start charging him rent instead? - Seedly
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Anonymous

07 Jun 2019

My son is 30, and still staying with us. Recently he has been spending a lot more unnecessary money (eg when he doesn't like our cooking, he will order food). Should I start charging him rent instead?

He pays us for utilities, and gives us some money. We don't need extra money, but Just want to encourage him to live out on his own. He has a GF but they'll only get married in about 2 years time. He has a good job too

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    What are your thoughts?

    If charging him rent, will turn the whole family relationship sour, I reckon you should not charge him. As said, you do not need extra money. In your situation, more like you guys need more communication. Cos sometimes to you it may be uncessary money, but to him he may have a different view. Talk to him, ask him why he does not like your cooking? Or maybe in future, when you cook, you do not need to cook his share. Tell him what you think and both of you guys try to accomodate one another.

    Your main intention is for him to live on his own(being independent). In another 2 more years, when he gets married, he will have to be independent and the guy that take cares of his family and finances. Real life situations will take a toll on him. You may even long that he comes home to visit you guys.

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      Loh Tat Tian

      Loh Tat Tian

      26 Nov 2018

      Level 11·Founder at PolicyWoke (We Buy Insurance Policies)

      As you said, he is already 30. I believe he should be making his own decisions.

      I would like to ask instead. When the food was cooked, was his opinion taken into account? He is no longer dependent on you, so that might be a culture shock to you instead.

      If you wish to charge rent, please give. Him a heads up on it too. Nobody likes surprises. He will budget it himself.

      Ask yourself if you would like to be controlled? Rather, speak with an open mind. Maybe he has some financial knowledge which he didn't share yet (because nobody asked)?)

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        Why is he not giving you household income? (:

        Anyway gently prod him. Guys sometimes mature when t...

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