I'm 32, just got married, and in a company where I am doing really well. My husband wants to have kids soon, but I'm afraid it will affect my chances of promotion in the future. What do I do?

Choose kids before you are unable to do so, period. If you are really good at what you are doing, I am sure you can perform anywhere else in the world.

Need not strive to make your presence noticed, just make your absense felt. If company values you for having lots of potential to contribute to their growth, you will be able to negotiate your terms of work. Otherwise, it's simply sweet talk to get employees to work harder.

On the contrary, getting married and having kids is almost a prerequisite to be part of the senior management team. How many board members and CEOs of MNCs are single or have no kids? Unfortunately, the discrimination against singles/unmarried especially is very real

I will not sugarcoat and tell you the truth; I feel that you will have to choose between family or career and you cannot have both, and none of the option is wrong regardless of what you choose.

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You are still a normal human being, with 24 hours a day, and you need your rest and maintain your mental well-being. Thus, discuss this issue with your husband (fyi, he needs to help out equally) and make a decision that you will be proud of.

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Also, perhaps an unpopular opinion to some people here, you should NOT even bring up this family vs career issue with your boss/work place. This is your personal/family matter, so settle this at home and do NOT bring this issue to your workplace, and do NOT expect your workplace to compromise their work just because of your dilemma. You need to be professional and behave professionally.