How much should I budget for proposal and wedding?

Plan with the long-term in sight. Have an open conversation to discuss what happens next after the wedding, e.g. honeymoon, house, family planning.

All these events require money and we have to do proper financial planning to understand the cost associated in each effect. Accordingly, if the budget works out well, then discuss again on whether there is a way to meet mid-way.

At the end of the day, wedding is a once in a lifetime event and the investment will pay off for the next few decades.

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I think you need to come to a compromise! Communication is key - I told le partner I don't need a proposal nor a ring, but I want a traditional Chinese wedding so we're having one! Find out what is a must, what is a need and negotiate from there. Remember to spend within your means!

As a girl, I am personally quite annoyed at the notion of a dream wedding. The main point should be the marriage, and not a lavish wedding.

In fact, I think that it would be cool if people hold lavish weddings 10, 20, 30 or even 50 years after being married. Then that is really worth celebrating, because it shows that the marriage has stood the test of time. ​​​

Other than considering what you really want/need for your banquet, some other tips if you really have to follow your in-laws or parents' wishes are:

• Get your wedding dress from Taobao/qoo10: I got mine for cheap online and no one could tell it was that price. No one remembers my wedding dress anyway 2 years on.
• Do you really need an expensive photoshoot? I got a freelance photographer (with good credentials of course) and freelance makeup artist and got the photoshoot that I want for keepsakes.
• If you really need to spend, check out credit cards with the best rewards most suitable for you and your partner. E.g. Rebates, Miles or voucher redemption.