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Asked on 01 Jul 2019

What would you say to someone who shows off their salary to you?

Recently, I have a friend who keeps on telling me how much she is earning. I get that she has a well paid job but why must she keep on boasting about it?

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If I knew someone was trying to get a reaction out of me, I would probably not have any reaction regardless of the figure.

In the face of death, serious illness, etc, your salary ceases to have much meaning and your time left with your loved ones will matter more. That is the one true equalizer in our lifetimes. When your time is up, it is up.

Besides, if you earned X and spent 101% of X, you'll be broke regardless.

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Serene Toh
Serene Toh
Level 6. Master
Updated on 05 Jul 2019

Depends on how close they are. what they are trying to do;

  1. Make you envious,

  2. Start of progress to sell you MLM

  3. try to attract you (>vo)

If 1, can ignore cause it’s probably a sign of insecurity. If you are really close, you can act “wow” and ask for treat, but pity them inside for their insecurity. If you really dislike this person, try to sell them some product.

If 2, ignore, if you ask for treat they might invite you for an MLM event. But... if free meal...

3? Up to you.

Actually there is a possibility that they don’t know what they are doing is showing off. Cause after reflection, I realise did this before, but it was regarding my savings not salary. I was actually sharing cause I was feeling abit insecure about my financial situation (after retrenchment exercise in 2008) didn’t think it was considered “show off”. My friend later privately told me not to talk about money during meet ups. So if you think this is a possibility and you are close enough. You can remind them nicely. Maybe you could phrase it like “don’t make yourself a target.”

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Takingstock @
Takingstock @

04 Jul 2019

Agree I thought about my behaviour and someone else I know, I believe talking about salary is probably unintentional, and the person is probably just feeling insecure in some way. It could even be a harmless question to probe if she is matching "average", "below average", or even feeling lost and lonely in some way.
Serene Toh
Serene Toh

05 Jul 2019

It’s one of those questions that don’t translate well, cause we are not able to judge the emotions of the person the poster is questioning about. Would be helpful, if poster can describe the way the Friend “boast” and the words used, that made them think it’s boasting.
Junus Eu
Junus Eu
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Level 9. God of Wisdom
Answered on 16 Jul 2019

One word: Unfriend.

Jokes aside, money is only one aspect of things. A person's character and integrity are much more important traits in a friend.

Besides, if you found yourself in a situation in desparate need of money one day, would this friend pass you the money you need? Food for thought.

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Brandan Chen
Brandan Chen, Financial Planner at Manulife Singapore
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 02 Jul 2019

Just look at it and say: So little only ar!

If he showing it to you before the bill comes (assuming ou guys are having a meal):Wah since you earn so much, this meal on you lol

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No need to say anything. Just smile. Let them stroke their own ego.

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Siow Nan
Siow Nan, Electrical And Computer Engineering at Nus
Level 6. Master
Answered on 01 Jul 2019

Ask them for a treat.

should not let it affect u as their salary has got nothing to do with you...but u can certainly help boost their ego and get a free treat out from them :)

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Yong Kah Hwee
Yong Kah Hwee
Level 8. Wizard
Answered on 01 Jul 2019

I'll just ignore. He/she just wants attention from you. Just don't give it to them.

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Leong Wen Fong
Leong Wen Fong
Level 7. Grand Master
Answered on 12 Jul 2019

Keep asking her to treat you then - since she like to show it off, she can show it off through her actions! Stop asking her to terat you when she stops showing off her salary!

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Mujimoro
Mujimoro
Level 5. Genius
Answered on 01 Jul 2019

Meh

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