Should a girl be paying on her first date? Or for that matter, any of her dates?

On first date, I will offer to split bill. If the guy insisted, I will let him pay. If we do go for coffee/ dinner on same day, then I will foot the next bill. For subsequent dates, I will alternate sometimes he pays, sometimes I pay. I pride myself to be an independent woman and to be treated as an equal. Why should I expect him to pay for everything. Of course the situation is different if he invited me to high class place, he should pay especially if I am fine with hawker centre or mid price place. If I invite him to high class place, then I should pay too. Basically if you want to develop long term relationship, both parties must give and take.

pffft. so complicated.

今天我请，下次到你。 记得约我哦~

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Done. Next date secured.

Either she jio you out, now you got 2nd date.

Or she gets busy, and now you've an excuse to cheekily request for a 2nd date.

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At the next date, pay again, repeat steps till girlfriend status is achieved. =D

I always thought it should be whoever invited for the date should pay for it.

Going forward, if things are going well, each party will naturally want to spend time with the other and the taking turns inviting/planning for a date should happen naturally. Then payment for the date will be taking turns as well.

1. If u like the lady, even if she dun eat dinner with u, u will buy dinner to her.

2. u will spend on ppl u like. simple as tt.

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3. as for friends, is better to go dutch so no one is taken for granted and friendship will last.

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4. if the lady decided to pay alternately, it also show her effort to show her likes and concern.

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all in all, even if the lady decides to makan you, if you like her, just let her bite. =p