I have been living with my boyfriend for 6 months, and he hasn't contributed anything. I love him, but how do I motivate him to get a proper job?

Communication is very important in a relationship!! I hope you manage to communicate well with him regarding your concerns :)

Are you still together?

Sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. If he really loves you he will take action. Set a timeline. If he goes back to his old ways, my advice would to end the relationship. You deserve better.

Coming in from a female perspective:

1. Have you spoken to him about this at all? If it is something that weighs heavily upon you, definitely have an honest talk with him about it. Honesty and being open is one of the most important things to have in a relationship.

2. Consider why you are concerned.

There are a few factors that could be in play as to why you want him to do something about this:

• A boyfriend with a proper job (I am assuming stable income, CPF contributing etc) makes him more of a 'manly man'. I know gender roles are shifting and alot more blurred these days, but still, there are some women I know (generally much much older), who seem to be ok with a husband who stays at home to do the housework.

• Is it the fact that he is doing nothing that bothers you, or the fact that he is not earning money that bothers you? Case in point: your boyfriend could be an entrepreneur working really really hard to run his business, but does not take home an income at this point.

3. Find out how HE feels about the current arrangement.

Additionally, has he ever felt the same way, or is he perfectly comfortable with the current arrangement?

At the end of the day, it helps to understand what the two of you value in the relationship. Do the both of you really love the person as they are, or just the concept of them?