I once had an ex who feels the need to spend to make life meaningful. Being in love, I choose to embrace her vision and did not ask her to change. Instead, I choose to change my life style to fit her lifestyle. The spending goes from travelling to buying non stop online and all her shoppings can only be placed on her bedroom floor. Even the startup Carousell, did not assist in reducing the shopping but increase the storage issue. The moment I realised this is an addiction, it was too late. I was labelled a control freak when I request her to stop buying and start selling. Then we broke up because I could not fit into her lifestyle anymore. She made me realised that if we really love a person, we must not embrace her bad habit and we must try our best to let her realised if there is any changes needed, is for her benefit in the long run and not for the partner who cares for her. In the financial journey, is about teaching her the right way to save and to spend. Save for retirement. Spend for commitment. By supporting her with financial support might do her more harm then loving her. By allowing her to learn how to grow her savings, it give her more freedom in spending and in a more meaningful ways. My Financial Journey is never about myself, is always about us.