Question to those who are already married or going to get married soon. Do you split wedding cost 50/50?

Well, the good news is that you have a supportive wife-to-be. I will be more worried about what my wife thinks then what the sociaty values things as that will determine the relationship and your happiness at home.

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Sociatal views are always changing. No point placing too much pressure on yourself to conform.

Hi Joel! :) for context, I'm younger but have been earning more than my husband (lesser than $1k difference but still, my parents are not too happy about it =x) as I'm typing this, I also realize I'm spending much more than him Oops! XD

Anyways, I would take up the offer if she opted for the 50-50 after I suggested 60-40.

Hubs and I just gt married near the end of last year. Our savings towards our wedding preparations have always been at 50-50. But then I realized that he has to pay for dowry, engagement ring and a piece of gold for me. I believe for Chinese must have that 4 piece of gold thing? (Pls do correct me if I'm wrong.) Even after I paid for our wedding rings and tried to match the prices of our gift exchange, inevitably my husband still spent more on the wedding than I did. We really tried to halved everything but some things like dowry and gold, we think better I don't contribute to that sum.

As for guys having to provide for everything, we all have to move on. If you can afford it, sure go ahead. But I think we need to be realistic. Singapore isn't exactly a cheap place to be living in. If my husband pays for something today, I make sure I pay for something the next day. Even after having said all that, I still insist that he pays for our monthly monthsary lunch / dinner! Hahaha :D

At the end of the day, you'll be living the rest of your life with your future wife. Always communicate and agree to certain things with some compromise on both sides. People always say happy wife, happy life. I like to add on, happy husband, happier life! Because when he's happy, he likes to shower me with food or small little things to make me happy too and I've never known the limits of the love I have for him even after our arguments here and there haha.

Enjoy the journey together!!!