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Life choices

I am 30, and feeling stagnant at my current workplace after 3 years. The learning curve has eased about a year ago. Now i have an opportunity that offers a 10% increment (ok but not fantastic), andit is a job with responsibilities that i am unsure if i can conquer. Part of me wants to try, but a major part of me is afraid of the heavy expectations that comes with the job - what if i miss their mark? Anyone been in my shoes before?


*My current job is like a retirement home, perfect schedule, with hybrid working model. Perfect work life balance, just 0 learning curve.

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My advice would be to carefully weigh the pros and cons, and don't let the fear of the unknown hold you back entirely. Here are a few suggestions that might help:

  1. πŸ” Thoroughly research the new role and responsibilities. Speak with the hiring manager to understand the expectations in detail and assess if you have the necessary skills and capabilities.
  2. πŸ€” Reflect on your past experiences and accomplishments. Chances are, you have developed more transferable skills than you realize. Don't sell yourself short.
  3. πŸ’ͺ Consider how you can leverage your existing strengths and work on shoring up any skill gaps. Is there training or support available to help you succeed in the new role?
  4. πŸ—“οΈ Don't feel rushed to make a decision. Take your time to carefully evaluate the opportunity and your own readiness. A few days or weeks can make a difference.
  5. πŸ“£ Seek advice from trusted mentors or colleagues who know your work and can provide an objective perspective on the potential move.

What you have mentioned is written here. It is definitely time for you to move on and explore new opportunities. Understand that it can be scary and feel nervous about new expectations but it is all part and parcel of new opportunities. Making mistakes are part of the learning process. Don't worry too much as I'm sure people will help you along the way! You are still young and should not keep yourself in an environment where you no longer have growth opportunities.

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I am not you, so I would not tell you what to do.

However, I will attempt to shed a little light to help you make the decision.


First question : What have you got to lose if you accept the new job? If you accepted the new job, and realise after some time that you are unable to perform as expected. What happens after that? Find another job? Learn to improve yourself?


Second question : Will you be happy with your current job a year from now? 5 years from now? 10 years from now? Are you able to request a job rotation which allows you to stay in the company but have room for you to grow?


Third question : If you feel a lot of anxiety of accepting this new job, why not look for another job which fits your perception of growth better?


Fourth question : What do you want from your job? other than a stable income, that is. What do you look for in your job? a sense of accomplishment? growth?


Now my opinion based on my needs & wants, I value growth. Not just the growth in monetary terms, but in terms of personal growth. I do not want to be doing the same things day in day out, especially not when I was in my 30s. Now that I am in my 40s, I still don't want to do the same things day in day out. I don't aim to be a big shot in my life, but I enjoy learning new things. Therefore I would have chosen to take on a new job, if I foresee learning new things.


No risks, no significant increase in return. BUT, risks does not always brings return. Do what brings you happiness. There is no one right way for everyone. And please please do not make decisions based on how you think people will perceive you.

Sooner or later have to conquer, conquer already anot?

Retirement is not for those in their 30s. 30...

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