How to have a life outside of work?

I agree with others that you need to set a boundary with work. Is the work so important that you are not able to continue the next day instead? Or is your employer making you OT all the time? If it can be done tomorrow, do it tomorrow and end your day when your working hours end. Read this article, it has some important tips for you to achieve a work life balance. As you find yourself once again feeling trapped in the job, no matter if you had passion for it, you are bound to quit or ruin your mental health. You are still young, do explore other industries if it is an industry issue and find time for yourself on the weekends too. Go out yourself or with your friends and give your mind the time to relax.

You probably already found the root cause - and yes, it's yourself. You didn't set the boundaries, you allow the working hours to be long quoting the justifications and you then apply self-pity. This is not going to work out, sorry for being honest and blunt.

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I work late too but I manage it within my tolerance (I stop when I need to), I have life, I volunteer, serve in church, do my own household chores, review my health, set aside time for friends and close family w the very limited time I have. So pls dun think it's difficult or impossible. It's just adulting.

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So start from setting boundaries, manage/shorten your working hours, join a community (volunteering/rc activities etc.)... I also learnt this: I am no longer a student/kid needing someone to set boundaries for me, I have grown up and I set my own boundaries.

Like how Ace says, set your boundaries and say no sometimes, have to be strong and be firm, if boss not happy then find another job, there is always someone else to take over. no need to worry. jia you man

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