My boyfriend and I are planning to get married and have 2 kids. What are the steps that we should take to plan it out? - Seedly

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Asked on 01 Mar 2019

My boyfriend and I are planning to get married and have 2 kids. What are the steps that we should take to plan it out?

How should we generate more income (from our monthly salary) to not only plan for our retirement but our kids too in the future?


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Junus Eu
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Answered on 16 Apr 2019

First and foremost, it's best if you both understand each other's approaches and philosophy to finance. It's one thing to take care of your own finances, and another to take care of joint expenses (and this includes extended family say in-laws etc). For example, I have seen disagreements where recently married couples cannot agree on how much they should give their respective parents etc.


Really examine what the expenses are to live together. Utilities, food, transport etc. Clearly, it will be even more with children. Understand how much it will be, so as to minimize surprises in the future.

Both parents might even have different perspectives on what is deemed 'essential' for a child. One parent might think that chinese tuition classes at $200 a month is absolutely critical, whereas the other might not.

More income

Look at side jobs, and take on projects that leverage your own skillsets.

P.S. I would probably not spend so much on a wedding, but that's my personal take.



Set aside money for emergency, insurances ready, set aside money for wedding and children. You can either choose to upgrade your skills in your current job to earn more pay. Or take on side gigs like tutoring, photography and so on to earn more income.


Charmaine Ng
Charmaine Ng, The Code Breaker at @ Every Chye Peng Stall
Level 6. Master
Answered on 02 Mar 2019

Is there any skills that both of you possesses that could potentially turns into a viable business model? If not is investing something on the cards? Know yourself and determine what are some of the options you'll be willing to explore; but generates passive income.

If you are planning to have kids all the expenses can add up quickly, explore sustainable options such as reusable nappies (from cutting expenses point of view), to early investment (robo adviser maybe?) or if you're more conservative, a good deposit account to fight the inflation.

A good idea is to talk to each other, know your financial commitments and work from there to see what each of you can contribute.